Who are your role models? How do they influence change in your life?
He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed. Proverbs 13:20 (NKJV)
I have a few role models, and I’ve made it a point to have a role model that influence/effect a specific area of my life. This is also for the benefit of my daughter, I know that the people she is surrounded by (with God at the centre, obviously) are the people who would shape her into the woman she is destined to be.
For my spiritual life there is a wise young lady that I like to keep close to. If you ask her to talk about God you would feel like you’re talking to God’s marketing director. I just look at/remember her and think of God’s goodness, kindness and mercy. If I were to fully explain what I am on about you would be shocked. God has used this beautiful woman for my life so many times I can’t count, if I wanted to pay her back nothing would be enough, but I know that the reward God has for her is bigger than we can all imagine. She also has this ability (don’t know what else to call it), to push me into the things that I need to be doing. Most of the time when God tells me to do something, I don’t have to tell her, but some how she always reminds me of whatever it is that I am meant to be doing.
Brothers, join in imitating me, and keep your eyes on those who walk according to the example you have in us. Philippians 3:17 (ESV)
In my personal life and aspirations, my role model is my mum; she has achieved so much considering her start in life. The one lesson I’ve learnt from her life is to make plans for the future, because we don’t know what tomorrow may bring. She has always shown me how to be compassionate, though in the evening of her life she has shown me how to not let anyone take your kindness for weakness.
In terms of “relationship goals”, my role models would be my Pastor (Pastor Eddy) and his wife (Sister Trish). To me they are perfect (though that may not be the case). I can’t even full explain them, I really can’t. LOL
Appreciate your pastoral leaders who gave you the Word of God. Take a good look at the way they live, and let their faithfulness instruct you, as well as their truthfulness. There should be a consistency that runs through us all. For Jesus doesn’t change – yesterday, today, tomorrow, He’s always totally Himself. Hebrews 13:7-8 (MSG)
Another role model that isn’t directly my own role model, but someone I am making an active effort for them to be a part of my daughter’s life, is a young man who embodies what a God-fearing man looks like. I’m sure he’s not perfect and one day I figure out his flaw, but the way he treats my daughter gives me so much peace to know that in her life she’ll have experienced a loving male role model. For me the reason I feel like I can burden him with this subconscious responsibility is because I can see the God in him, that even though he may make a mistake (as humans do), the spirit of God in him will correct him, and that alone gives me the peace I need to allow him to influence and effect my daughter.
These people who I have described are my main role models, but they are not the only people that have made an impact on my life. I make an effort to pick lessons from the people I meet in life. For example I had/have one best friend who is multifaceted and I used to feel intimidated by her, but I have grown to learn that no matter what she does, her purpose is not my purpose, her gift is not my gift but I need to let God do with me as He pleases, and even as she succeeds be able to celebrate with her. Another lesson I’ve learnt is that don’t share anything that you can’t say with your chest, whether it be about someone or your own business, don’t say anything you can’t repeat.
Though I have all these role models and influences I know that it is the Spirit of God in these people, that is helping them to shape me, so that one day I’ll be able to influence others. John 13:15 says it best “I have given you an example to follow, Do as I have done to you”. Jesus is our ultimate example and role model.
Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ. 1 Corinthians 11:1 (NKJV)